
As an African American woman who has a strong sense of kinship and
affiliation with my African American heritage, family is another important value in my life. I look forward to coming home each day, to finding out
how everyone's day has been. Trying to strike a balance between work and
family can be taxing and sometimes chaotic. One of the family rituals that
I relished as a child was dinnertime. My parents, twin sister, and I would
often sit at the table for up to 2 hours after dinner ended just talking and
being a family. That ritual was one that I wanted to maintain once I married.
The major variant now is that dinner is not always home cooked, particularly
during the end of the semester when my kitchen frequently closes,
open only to leftover restaurant containers, take-out food, and prepared
meals. And the fact that evening classes prevent family dinner from taking
place on at least 2 nights a week, and with a 5-year-old, table talk may be
limited to 30 minutes. Even amidst the hectic pace, I still look forward to
seeing my Arthur (my husband) and Jaelyn (my daughter). Inasmuch as
possible, we try to protect our time-together rituals (Day-Vines, 2007).
Reference
Day-Vines,N.L.(2007). Wellness in the midst of adversity and tragedy. Journal of Humanistic Counseling, Education and Development, 46,242-246.
what is the importance of family time as part of your wellness? What are some of the factors infringing on family time? Do you think the lack of family time is contributing to the break down of values in our society?